Wedding Rites to add to your Ceremony

Below are some ideas to add rites with a symbolic meaning to your wedding ceremony, we are allways open to explore new ideas with you.

Unity Candle
At the ceremony location are tree candles placed, two smaller ones and one big one. When bride and groom arrive at the ceremony location they both light one of the smaller candles.
At the end of the ceremony the celebrant will invite the couple to use their individual candle to light the big candle in the middle explaining the symbolism of the two lives being joined together.

UNITY CANDLE CEREMONY Text
___________ and _________, the two separate candles
symbolize your separate lives,
separate families and separate sets of friends.
I ask that each of you take on of the lit candles
and that together you light the center candle.
The individual candles represent your lives before today.
Lighting the center candle represents
that your two lives are now joined to one light,
and represents the joining together
of your two families and sets of friends to one.
(For couples who are adding music to the ceremony, it is usually placed here)

Signing of Wedding certificate
Bride and groom will now sign the marriage certificate.
I’d like to invite __________ and _________________to join us as witnesses.

Blessing of hands
Please face each other and take each other’s hands, so that you may see the gift that they are to you. These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow and forever. These are the hands that will work alongside yours as together you build your future.
These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch will comfort you like no other. These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief temporarily comes to you. These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes, tears of sorrow and tears of joy.
These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children, the hands that will join your family as one. These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it, support and encouragement to pursue your dreams, and comfort through difficult times.
And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.

Permission guests
Should there be anyone who has cause
why this couple should not be united in marriage,
they must speak now or forever hold their peace.

Asking Family
“Who gives this woman to be married to this man?”
(Her family and I do.)

Family support declaration
When a man and a woman
come together in marriage,
their families and friends are also joined together
into a larger circle of caring.
From now on,
you will know bride and groom
not only as individuals,
but as marriage partners,
and your individual lives will be linked together
as members of this community.
brides mother and father,
would you please come and stand beside bride?
grooms mother and father,
would you please come and stand beside groom?
brides mother and father,
you stand before us
symbolizing the traditions and family
from which bride comes.
Do you willingly and gladly support
brides marriage to groom?
brides mother and father: Yes, we do!
grooms mother and father,
you stand before us
symbolizing the traditions and family
from which groom comes.
Do you willingly and gladly support
grooms marriage to bride?
brides mother and father: Yes, we do!
(Parents greet each other and return to their seats).

Ring Warming
Before we start, bride and groom would like to ask you
to pass the rings between each other during the ceremony,
and for each of you to warm them with positive thoughts.
They would like you to think of it as a quick marination of love!
The rings will be worn by bride and groom
as symbols of the eternal nature of energy
that cycles through all living things and cannot be either created or destroyed.
This energy unites and levels us all during our short time on earth,
making us realise that we are all connected
and part of a bigger unknowable universe that will go on when we are gone.
The rings are small circles that represent this bigger cycle and our part in it, and remind us how special it is to find love and friendship.
The rings will remind them to always cherish
and nurture this marvellous occurrence.

Remembrances
bride and groom have asked that we take a moment
to honor the memory of those loved ones
who could only be here today in spirit,
(you can also personalize this text and add the names of those who you remember)

Special Wedding Introduction
Today is a celebration; A celebration of love, of commitment, of friendship, of family, and of two people who are in it for forever.
You don’t have to have a ceremony to have a marriage. And when you think about it, the whole thing is kind of weird, right? You’re standing on a stage, looking fancy, holding flowers, and being stared at by pretty much everyone who has meant anything to you in the past twenty-something years. So why do we do it? The marriage ceremony has been an important feature across nearly every culture, religion, generation, and society. We have thousands of important moments that happen throughout our lives, but this one is regarded as one so critical, we acknowledge its special status by sharing it with others. Why this moment?
Because despite all of our differences, love is what we all share. It’s the great unifier — our one universal truth. That no matter who we are, where we’ve come from, what we believe, we know this one thing: love is what we’re doing right. That’s why you both are standing here. That’s why you all are here to watch them stand up here. We have all loved in our lifetimes, and in this moment, we’re reminded that the ability to love is the very best part of our humanity.

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